Habit Forming Advice, Backed by Science, From The Man Worth $820 Million

An amateur comedian attended a Jerry Seinfeld show, where he caught Jerry offstage. Thrilled at this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, he asked Seinfeld a question:

“Do you have any advice for an up-and-coming comedian like myself?"

Jerry Seinfeld smiled, then told him a simple answer. He said write one joke per day. Just one. Then each day you write a new joke,put a red X on your calendar.

But here is the key....

Donotbreak the chain of red X’s.

You know what... Seinfeld was right. This is a shockingly powerful exercise. Because once we get on a roll, it's unsettling to ruin a successful streak. And when I hear habit-forming advice from someone worth $820 million, I listen.

For example, I'm currently on a 42-day streak for meditating every morning. And I can attest that come hell or high water, I will NOT miss a day,simply because I don't want to break the chain.

Yet, creating a habit chain wasn't enough. I wanted to understandwhythis works. So I gathered some psychological data which explains the reasoning.

Now let's understand how it all works. There are three psychological components which make the "don't break the chain" process work, so I'll explain them one at a time.

First, our brain releases dopamine when accomplishing tasks.

Few will argue, it feels good to cross a task off our to-do list. The same logic applies writing an X on the calendar after doing that day's habit.

After an accomplishment, our brain releasesdopamine(the neurotransmitter responsible for pleasure), which normalizes our brain to desire the action again.

换句话说,我们的大脑我们accompl“奖励”ishments by releasing dopamine, which make us feel good.

And as any human being knows, if itfeelsgood we will do it again. This dopamine feedback loop is how all habits (both good and bad) get formed.

Second, we decrease the "Ahhh screw it, just this once" effect.

Similarly, the most common problem when trying to build a habit is the"ahhh screw it, just this once"effect. This is when you don't feel like going to the gym, so you stop going "just this once," which inevitably spirals into multiple times again.

Or when you want to stop eating sweets, but it's your brother's best friend's birthday party (nice excuse) and that tray of brownies is staring you down. So you eat "just one," which turns into a dozen, as you regrettably trudge home with love handles drooping over your chocolate-stained Levi's.

This happens when self-control is at its lowest point (also calledego depletion), which is when we're most vulnerable.

Third, we leverage "loss aversion."

Imagine your boss just unexpectedly offered you a monthly salary raise of $1,000. How would you feel? Surprised? Thrilled? Excited?

Now imagine your boss just unexpectedly cut your monthly salary by $1,000. How would you feel? Angry? Shocked? Furious?

If you're like most people, asresearchhas shown, losing $1,000 is a more powerful motivator than gaining $1,000. This is a psychological phenomenon called "loss aversion," which explains people would rather avoid a loss than acquire something new.

Formingsticky habits不能做如果我们不accountable. This method, which leverages psychological principles, keeps us focused on sticking to our original goals.

Just remember, whatever you do ...

Don't break the chain.